3 Women to Keep Away from Your Boyfriend
No matter how much you love and trust your boyfriend (or husband), men are weak and need assistance in preventing themselves from getting into trouble. I'm not one to advocate caging your man to prevent him from cheating.
However, I'm also not one to advocate being a damn fool playing with fire and inviting trouble into your relationship. Here are 3 types of women who will just spell trouble for any relationship, so avoid them if you can.
The Ex-Girlfriend / Ex-Wife
He may say that he no longer has feelings for his ex, and it may well be true but she is the one who had a special bond with him. The ex can ruin your relationship if she's always in the picture. Does she call him when she loses her job, breaks up with her new boyfriend or has a problem? Is he the one man in her mind who truly 'get's her'?
You don't have to make her the enemy but you need to draw the line somewhere. They are no longer a couple, and she should not depend on him or expect to maintain such an emotionally intimate relationship with him. Give this witch the boot, it's a huge world out there, she can find someone else to lean on.
The Low Self-Esteem Woman
We all know women like this. A woman with low self-esteem will do almost anything for male attention. She will flirt with your boyfriend, bad mouth you behind your back, display sluttish behaviour and fish for compliments from your man.
She needs it to feel good about herself. Never leave such a woman alone with your boyfriend. It's not that you don't trust your man, but be warned that such women will bend over backwards for the attention of anyone with a penis.
The Model Chick
Ok, I know that it's not fair to say this because it's not like being gorgeous makes her a bad person. She may be your friend and have no ill intentions towards your relationship at all. But do you like the thought of your man fantasizing about this model chick?
And which man honestly doesn't want to say to his friends, "I nailed a model!" ? So don't suggest that your boyfriend give her a lift in his car on his way home from work, or that he go over to her apartment without you to fix a leak in her taps. Just to prevent temptation and err on the side of caution, don't allow them to get unnecessarily close.
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Cheating when Drunk, Forgive & Forget it?
Being drunk is just an excuse people (women included) use countless of times to explain why they cheated on their partners. Cheating is cheating, and I don't think alcohol is to be blamed for it. Cheaters should be responsible for their mistakes and not play the victim.
If alcohol makes people so unaware of what they are doing, then when 2 men are drinking together and get drunk, how come they don't end up having sex with each other? Quite simply because they are aware of what they are doing!
There's a Spanish saying - No hay borracho que coma fuego which roughly translates as - There is no drunk that will eat fire. A drunk knows that something he is about to do is wrong, but he wants to do it (usually for pleasure) and he just doesn't give a damn.
Drinking merely curtails ones inhibitions. I don't believe that alcohol is ever going to make someone do something that he doesn't want to do on some level when sober but was just afraid to do it.
The only exception where I would forgive a person for cheating is if he or she was drugged (date drug, roofie, etc) and then raped while passed out. I would see them as an unwilling victim in such a situation, but otherwise, there is no excuse for cheating!
If you are unfortunate enough to be faced with the situation of a drunken partner cheating on you and then asking for a second chance, you need to ask yourself if you can handle being the kind of girl who will worry that her boyfriend is cheating on her every time he goes out for drinks.
If you don't mind being paranoid, then feel free to go back to him. But the truth remains that he did cheat on you, alcohol was just an excuse.
Furthermore, if a man is really so incredibly drunk that he truly has no idea what he is doing, then he will probably lose his legs and kiss the ground and he will pass out. He wouldn't get an erection, pull his pants down and have intercourse with a woman.
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